STRESS MANAGEMENT: HOW I LEARNED TO HANDLE STRESS AFTER VIAGRA ALMOST KILLED ME!

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FIRST, MY STORY…

Each sexual encounter I had with my wife further drove anxiety into my being. She wasn’t vituperative about the situation, the unmasked sullen expression on her face each time I rose from her body drove the message home. The magic of my loins was diminishing.

Our marriage was less than a year old. Being that I had met her a virgin, she had looked forward to a blissful and fulfilling sexual life after our wedding day.

After one of those nights of unsatisfying romp, I got to the office deflated. In my team then was an elderly man in his late fifties. Feeling that he was experienced enough and accommodating to understand my plight, I decided to confide in him. Victor smiled and reached into a locker beside his desk and pulled out a plastic container. He produced a small white pill and gave me instructions to take it a few hours before bed time. He smilingly said that I’d come back the next day with a better testimony. I thanked him profusely.

I got home at 6:30 PM filled with expectations. While my wife prepared dinner, I quickly popped the pill into my mouth. After a few minutes I felt dizzy and a throbbing headache ensued. At first I thought it was a preamble to the main deal. How wrong I was. The headache was so splitting that my penis couldn’t do any job at all that night. I was in so much pain to even think about a turgid penis.

I was so ashamed of myself. Victor told me he had given me an overdose of the Viagra pill and apologized. A few days after, I confided in my wife. She was quite compassionate when I told her why I did what I did. She assured me that we would work on her expression and that together we could work on my situation. And we did. It turned out that I was so stressed and it had affected my sexual performance. We set to work. Via affirmations, reassessing the meanings I gave to sex, and adopting newer sexual positions, I got my groove back.

NOW, YOUR STORY…

Stress affects majority of adults. In our contemporary life of cut-throat market competition, increasing demand on time, noise, and uber-speed processes, majority of us end each day tremendously stressed. Medically, stress manifests itself via different symptoms – tiredness, headaches, irritability, loss of appetite, erectile dysfunction, depression, and so many others. Consequently, our health becomes endangered.

For folks like me who straddle the paths of paid employment and building an intellectual empire, we are constantly working to please the pull of the strings of our bosses and the needs of our businesses. It’s not an easy path to walk on. We can’t prevent stress from hitting us, but consciously evolving ways to deal with it is paramount.

Having said so, I’ll share with you a few ways that I deal with stress.

ALSO READ: HOW TO DEAL WITH DEPRESSION AND SADNESS.

PRACTICAL WAYS I ADOPT TO DEAL WITH STRESS

1: Watch soap operas. I’m an avid fan of Telemundo. I’m a romantic and watching such soaps where folks fall in love and kiss and make love helps me connect with our humanity. I feel relaxed thereafter.

2: Comedies are also great de-stressors. They make you laugh and feel hearty. If you’re a lover of football, I’d advise not to watch your team play after work. If you’re passionate about the success of that team, you could probably find yourself screaming your lungs hoarse when someone misses a shot at goal.

3: If you’re the type of manager who micromanages people, it’s better to start learning how to delegate. You’ll be amazed at the tons of work you can take off your shoulders as you give your subordinates the leverage to make mistakes and learn along.

4: I make effort to cut off irrelevant stuff from my routines. Despite the repeated calls by my parents to regularly attend weddings and, I try to keep my slate clean during the weekends when I’m not attending meetings or working. Those days I try to detox by sleeping or taking long walks or relaxing with my son who fills my time with joyful moments. There will always be weddings and a few apologies would always do the trick.

5: I surround myself with folks who don’t drain my energy by their tantrums, gossip, or the-sky-is-falling demeanor. These kind of people are important because you’re accountable to them as you work to have a balance in your life.

6: Sex. Sex. Yes, sex. Sex is known to be good de-stressor. When I’m feeling overly disturbed and depressed over situations that turned awry, sex helps me to calm down. To me, it’s therapeutic. Try it. Caveat : Have sex when married. Period.

7: Have an enclave where you can walk in and sit quietly. You can strap a pair of earphones and listen to some light music or meditation sounds. Just sit and let the earth around you caress your soul.

8: Pat yourself in the back when you achieve a milestone in a project you’re working on, no matter what it is. Soak yourself in the excitement of achievement and feel the world at your feet. It’s a great feeling.

These are a few ways I adopt to deal with stress. However, you can be as creative as ever. The most important thing to note is that by doing a few adjustments, you can design your life to cut off the chinks that chip at your health.

Here’s raising a mug of cappuccino to you. Live your best life always.

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ABOUT THE WRITER

Emeka Nobis is a writer and thought leader who raises exceptional thought leaders for organizations and society.

Via his writing, coaching and consulting services, he helps business and organizational leaders define their messages with clarity, build a remarkable platform to share their ideologies, and earn from their exploits.

He blogs thrice a week at www.emekanobis.com, the go-to blog for thought leaders. He can be followed on Twitter : @iamemekanobis and IG : @nobisemeka

 

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